One of my amazing group coaching clients has decided to document her journey working with me. I love hearing my clients talk about the process in their own words, it really brings the work that I do to life.
Here is part 1 of Fiona’s story in he own words….
“Happy International Women’s Day
This week has flown by.
My second session with Transformational Nutrition is tomorrow and since we last met, I’ve been mostly thinking about Self-Compassion.
In other words, not being my own bully. I like to think I’m very self-aware but I’m not sure how much self-compassion I have – are they the same thing?
Throughout the week I’ve noticed I have a lot of automatic thoughts when it comes to eating. I haven’t dieted for years, not physically anyway. But what I’ve realised is I am still very much a psychological dieter. My automatic thoughts still (wrongly I’m learning) perceive certain foods as ‘bad’ and even though I don’t act on those thoughts, they are still there.
Throughout my dieting years, I was taught how to count calories or points and which foods were seen as sins or bad – in the short term I lost weight but none of those methods are sustainable if you want to live a full life and enjoy food! I was left completely confused about what I should and shouldn’t eat.
How can we ever expect to have a healthy relationship with food if this is drummed into us? When I eat something that my mind thinks is bad, which I do, I realise I still have a lot of work to do on my self-compassion! Phrases like ‘What did you eat that for’, ‘you should have chosen something else’, all pop into my mind – all things we quite happily say to ourselves but would never say to someone else.
So in answer to my earlier question, no, I don’t think being self-aware and having self-compassion are the same thing.
I’m very self-aware that at the moment, I’m not compassionate to me at all!”
You can follow Fiona’s full journey here.