When I was growing up, food was life.
I come from an Italian family and the words that still ring in my ears from my late Nonno are ‘Mangia, Mangia, Mangia…’ (eat, eat, eat).
So imagine their horror when in my late teens, diet culture took hold and I could no longer eat, eat, eat.
I had far too many rules to adhere to and it made me unhappy, it made me unwell.
It hurt my family more than I will ever know and it damaged my relationship with them. Because food was such an integral part of what we did, of how we celebrated, of how we laughed and had fun together. Yet I was constantly stressed, anxious, and scared around food.
Not only this, I was exhausted, unanimated, and couldn’t find pleasure in our mealtimes together.
This went on for years.
I would do anything to avoid birthdays, christenings, parties of any kind because I didn’t want to be in a position where I would be made to eat something I don’t think I physically could have. I grew further and further apart from my family and friends.
It took me a long time but I did eventually seek help and I did eventually overcome my fear of food. But I will never get that time back.
And my Nonno is now gone.
This is why I am so passionate about the work I do today.
My problems started with a single, restrictive diet aged 19.
Yes, there were other factors, as there always are, but the diet was the catalyst.
‘Wow, you’ve lost weight!’
‘Hey, you look good!”
It all became so addictive, I soon became obsessed with every morsel of food that passed my lips.
Not everyone who goes on a diet will suffer as I did.
But many will and unfortunately more and more are.
I learned that there are better ways to manage your weight.
I also learned that constantly chasing the scales means you will never love your body, no matter how much you tell yourself: ‘When I get there, it will all be OK and I will be happy…’ Trust me, you won’t.
Restrictive diets erode every last piece of your self-esteem and self-respect.
Until you work on yourself and understand why it is you really want to diet, you will never be truly happy.
You will never have the energy or motivation to achieve what you are capable of because food will take up every waking moment.
It will impair your mental health.
It will consume your headspace.
I give this back to clients.
I show them that food is not the enemy, their thoughts are.
This is why I will never give client rules and plans to follow.
I give them the tools and skills to eat well, be happy and be healthy permanently.
I give them the confidence to be able to achieve their goals without misery and restriction.
Don’t miss out on life.
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